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Best sex positions

how to spice up your sex life with these 5 positions

By Dr. Vivian Holloway

Published: 12 Mar 2025

Let's be honest, sometimes the spark fades. Remember those early days? The excitement, the passion? Yeah, life happens. Kids, work, stress – it all takes its toll. But before you start thinking about ‘spice’, let’s remember the foundation. Strong communication? Quality time together? Feeling truly seen and heard? Those are the real ingredients of a thriving relationship. If those basics are shaky, no amount of acrobatic positions will fix things. So, let’s work on the basics first. Then, we'll talk positions.

The 'Spooning' Sensation: Comfort and Connection

Think of this as the warm hug of intimacy. It’s about closeness, safety, and feeling utterly cherished. Perfect for a relaxed evening, this position promotes a sense of comfort and security. I’ve found that this simple position helps me to feel incredibly close to my partner. It's not all about wild abandon, sometimes slow and steady wins the race. Remember that gentle touch can be as important as passion. What does your experience of this position look like?

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The 'Standing Ovation': Energy and Excitement

This one's a bit more energetic and adventurous! It’s all about embracing the thrill and the excitement of the moment. Think of it as a playful dance, a dynamic exchange of energy. It requires trust and a willingness to be spontaneous. My partner and I sometimes do this when we are celebrating something. It's a reminder of our playful side and gets the blood pumping! This position is a reminder that keeping the excitement alive in your relationship is essential, even when things get busy.

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The 'Classic Embrace': Timeless Romance

This is the quintessential romantic position. It’s all about connection, intimacy, and a sense of timeless romance. It’s simple, yet incredibly effective. It allows for both physical intimacy and meaningful eye contact, fostering a deeper emotional connection. My partner and I have found that this position is wonderful for those deep, meaningful conversations that nurture our relationship. Sometimes the simplest things are the best! What kind of connection do you want to nourish?

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The 'Cowgirl/Cowboy': Taking the Reins

This position is all about empowerment. It's about taking charge and embracing your sensuality. For the 'rider', it's a feeling of control and agency. For the 'receiver', it's a chance to surrender and be swept away. This position isn’t just about the physical; it’s about emotional vulnerability and trust. Don't be afraid to be bold and experiment! One word of warning though, this one can be messy! So be prepared for a possible clean-up operation.

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The 'Lotus': Finding Balance and Harmony

This position is all about finding balance and harmony within yourselves and your connection. It’s about intimacy and trust, requiring both partners to be fully present. It promotes a sense of deep intimacy and spiritual connection. This one’s all about connection beyond the physical. For us, this position is deeply connected to our emotional intimacy.

couple in a close embrace, legs intertwined | Image: Supplied

Remember, the most important thing is to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Experiment, try new things, and most importantly, have fun! This isn't a competition or a performance; it’s about shared intimacy and enjoyment. What works for one couple might not work for another. And that’s perfectly okay. The goal is to find what brings joy and connection to both of you. So what will you try tonight?